Going through a break up is never a fun experience. This is made even worse when you are on the receiving end of the break up. If this is your situation, you may be wondering what you can do after your ex-girlfriend breaks up with you.
First of all, you want to be sure that you are not handing over all of the power to your ex. Don't act desperate or try frantically to win her back. A desperate person is not attractive to anyone at any time.
If the break up is recent, you should act like you wholeheartedly agree with it. Let your ex know that you feel that time apart is a great idea. This is critical even if you are having trouble feeling this way. This will catch her by surprise and make her wonder why you are ready to agree so quickly. This also helps to shift some of the power and leverage back into your court. She won't be able to feel like she is running things any longer.
During the time following the break up, you should not make any contact with your ex-girlfriend. Do not call her, do not email her, and do not show up to the places where you are sure she will be. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, you need to use this fact to your advantage. You will get the added bonus of causing her to wonder if someone else is keeping you busy.
This does not mean that you should be rude. You are not trying to shut yourself out of her life for good. You are just taking a break from each other. If you do find yourself face to face with her, make it a very short encounter and excuse yourself politely saying you have to be somewhere. Be friendly, but not overly friendly. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. If you cave in too soon, you will not get anywhere with her.
You may be wondering how you will ever get back together with her if you are constantly avoiding her. This phase will not last forever. It is simply a step in a very successful program to get her back for good.